WHO

If you have the motivation and commitment, I can help you save your relationship and more accurately build a new relationship with your partner based on a renewed confidence in yourself and a more profound connection and intimacy between you.

YOU

There are a couple of factors that will maximize your success. The first is for us to meet for an initial consultation to ensure that we are a good fit to work together. The second is your level of motivation and willingness to practice what you learn in our time together.

I carefully select couples who are a good fit for an intensive as I know it is a significant investment in time, money, and your relationship.

Who is a good candidate for a Couples Intensive, and is likely to have the most success working with me?

  • High achieving and otherwise successful couples who are stuck in self-defeating patterns

  • Tired of their current situation and determined to create genuine lasting change

  • Want to get ‘unstuck,’ reduce arguments, conflict, and anger in the relationship

  • Want to gain clarity and confidence about the decision to stay together

  • Appreciate insight into where self-defeating behavior comes from and how to stop it

  • Are interested in neuroscience to support the work we are doing and how it impacts their behavior in their relationship

  • Willing to invest in their relationship and the process of change

  • Value challenging questions, direct feedback, and a sense of humor

Who is not a good candidate for this service?

  • You are not committed to the intensive nature of this therapeutic process and your relationship.

  • When there is an ongoing or undisclosed affair

  • When there is serious violence in the relationship

  • If you or your partner is suicidal or suffers from an untreated serious mental illness

  • When there is active addiction

Me

Through my work with couples, I have learned that navigating modern relationships is one of the most difficult but most valuable and rewarding challenges we will face in life. When you reach out for help, you are choosing to trust a professional couple’s therapist to help you set a clear direction for change. I have spent years learning different models of couples therapy and becoming a specialist in the field. On a more personal level, I’ve always been fascinated by the partners we choose and how we connect, disconnect and reconnect again with those we love.

When couples come to therapy, regardless of how successful they may be in their careers, there is a common theme of emptiness and disconnection in the stories they tell. I see my role as helping couples discover more profound compassion for themselves and empathy for each other, ultimately rewriting their scripts to tell a new story based on connection and transformative change.

After many years of experience, I am excited to offer a refined and effective process to significantly reduce conflict, rebuild trust, gain confidence in your relationship potential and ultimately, create a clear direction for enduring change. Traditional couples therapy is effective but can take from 6-to 8 months to get to a “turning point” in your relationship. A Couples Intensive may be your answer if you want to reach that point sooner. This process provides the framework for the change, and this change lasts if you consistently implement what you learn during our time together. I also specialize in helping you to understand the neuroscience that supports the work we will be doing. 

I recognize that most couples therapy is ineffective, and sometimes, it can even worsen things. One of the reasons for the high failure rate is that any therapist can claim to work with couples even though most clinicians (therapists, counselors, psychologists, etc.) are not specially trained to work with couples and families. It’s very different from working with individuals, and many mainstream therapists are either frequently out of their depth with couples or use a “one size fits all” model, which is often ineffective. This is a highly specialized therapy area, so ask your potential therapist many questions about their qualifications before you entrust your marriage to them. 

If you seek a highly qualified professional you have come to the right place. My approach is genuinely different. I work with you to quickly identify where you may be stuck or stalled on your relationship journey. This is usually the key to understanding your challenges and co-creating a clear direction for change. Rather than focusing on each other’s perceived deficits and failings, I support you to work on your individual growth and development and take responsibility for your own lives. I invite you to define the vision you seek for your relationship and how you aspire to show up in that relationship. I help you turn your vision and aspirations into a reality that makes permanent change possible.

I offer a straight-talking approach and will tell you what I think and call you out when required. I help you quickly turn things around and create a long-term relationship based on the best in each of you and the future you most desire!